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Does size really matter? After being sexually active for some twenty-plus years, I have to admit that size does matter.
Sorry, y’all!
I’m talking about sex toys today, and specifically, sex toys that one uses during sex with a partner. The size of the toy matters greatly, especially to this user and as it turns out, to many of the people we interact with on several different platforms.
Here’s the thing, when I have sex, I like to use a toy from time to time. Not every time, but a few times a month I like to pull out a toy and use it while I’m getting fucked. If I have a craving to be taken in doggy-style, you better believe I have a toy on my clit. When we’re spooning, usually on a slow moving weekend morning, I’ll use a toy again to please my clit. Certain positions don’t directly stimulate my clit, it’s why I love to ride him. It’s why so many of our videos are of me riding him, my tits bouncing. When I can properly grind, while riding, it’s pure bliss for me.
It’s in those times where I’m spooning him and I grab a toy or when I’m on my knees, bracing myself with one hand while holding a toy in the other, that I need something that not only hits me where I want it but won’t cause me any harm or take every bit of strength I have just to keep it in place.
This is where size matters y’all…
Look, I love using my Le Wand Massager, I do. It’s just that when I’m getting fucked in doggy I really have a hard time keeping my wand in place. That’s a good thing, for the most part, but it’s also a little heavy and while I’m a strong woman, this is one of those positions that takes a little more focus on keeping myself upright in order to get the most pleasure from what we’re doing.
Spooning doesn’t quite require me to use the same amount of strength, but what it does require is a little more room for both of us to achieve what we’re after. I’ve tried using a smaller wand, specifically my Petite, but what I’ve found, and he has too, is that the head of the wand will occasionally get in the way of his thrusting. This isn’t always a problem, but it can throw things off and when you’re in the moment or if things are a little wetter than usual, that larger head can derail a really great time.
Please, please, please don’t take this as me being anti-wands. I LOVE my wands and will be writing something soon that will describe just how in LOVE I am with my wands, it’s just that there are better options when in certain positions. Again, as I said at the top, size matters and in this kind of a situation, I want a toy that has the power I’m after but has a smaller footprint.
Pinpoint vibrators, like the high-end Zumio or more budget-friendly options like Juno from Blush and the Orgasm Monster from Funzze, are great for use when having more intense sex with a partner like one has in doggy or while you’re spooning. Pinpoints have tips that are about as small as you’ll find on any sex toy and they buzz at such a rapid pace. These are hyper-focused on your clit, so an orgasm is almost guaranteed with these toys. They are also incredibly lightweight and for the most part, comfortably long enough to hold between your thighs when with a partner. These are also great to use in the shower during standing doggy, if you were to drop it on your foot this wouldn’t ding your toes the way a wand or something a bit heavier would.
Bullets are great toys to use during sex with a partner as well, and if you’ve been following me or reading any of my recommendations throughout the years you know that bullets are the category of toy I recommend most for first-time users. They’re typically small, non-intimidating, and don’t blast your lady bits apart at first use. They’re great beginner toys but don’t write off all bullets as lightweights in the power division. Bullets like Limited Addiction and Dolphin Dreams from Blush or Tango X from We-Vibe pack a ton of power into a small space. They’re also, like pinpoints, working in such a small footprint and are lightweight, making them perfect to use while getting pleasured from behind.
I get asked about my favorite toys pretty often and when I share that I’m a fan of bullets, some people are initially surprised. Smaller toys have their place, the utility, however you want to put it.
Bigger isn’t always better folks, but size does matter.