Our Top 10 Sex Positions for Couples (Plus the Best Toys!)

Real talk y’all: there are hundreds of sex positions out there, and the internet seems determined to convince us that we should be trying every single one of them. Some look impressive, some require the flexibility of a professional gymnast, and others leave you wondering whether anyone involved is actually enjoying themselves.

These lists would drop so frequently in the magazines I was reading as a younger woman and I was so confused. I remember one that looked like a guy was cutting the grass, with the woman as his walk-behind lawn mower.

But when it comes down to it, the best sex positions aren’t necessarily the most complicated. They’re the ones that feel good, bring you closer together, and make you want to come back for more.

We’ve put together our ten favorite positions. Some are familiar classics, while others offer a different angle, a little more intimacy, or an opportunity to explore something new.

1. Cowgirl

Cowgirl is a classic for a reason. He lies on his back while I straddle him, facing them and controlling the movement, angle, and pace.

This position gives the partner on top plenty of control over depth and rhythm. It also makes eye contact, kissing, and hands-on exploration easy. Depending on the angle and movement, it can provide opportunities for clitoral stimulation, too. It’s a versatile position that can be adjusted to suit both partners, whether the goal is slow, intimate sex or something a little more energetic.

Why it’s on our list: There’s something to be said for having control over what feels best while still enjoying plenty of intimacy.

Our personal experience: Guess how we came this morning? Look, there’s a reason he loves this one, and paid subscribers, we’ll share a picture in chat that gives you an idea. I love it because I do, from time to time, enjoy grinding my clit against his body as I ride. There’s something lovely about him grabbing my hips, or pulling me forward so he can put my tits in his mouth.

Remember paid friends…chat.

2. Doggy Style

Doggy style is another classic, with one partner positioned on their hands and knees while the other enters from behind. Variations in posture and positioning can change the angle, depth, and overall sensation.

Some couples enjoy the deeper penetration this position can allow, while others prefer a shallower angle or a slower pace. Pillows can help with comfort, and a little communication can make a significant difference. One thing worth remembering is that penetration from behind doesn’t automatically provide much direct clitoral stimulation. That’s where a little creativity—and potentially a well-chosen sex toy—can come in handy. Keep reading and I’ll give you a favorite toy to use in this one.

Why it’s on our list: It’s versatile, easy to adjust, and offers a different experience from face-to-face positions. Also, there are just some times where I want to get fucked, HARD. This is one of those positions where I can take every inch of his cock and feel like he’s punishing me. There’s something hot about all of that.

Our personal experience: Lately, this has been a favorite of mine. This isn’t so much making love as it is fucking, and from time to time I want to get FUCKED. There’s nothing quite like feeling him pounding me from behind, gripping my ass, every so often slapping it to let me know he’s in charge. I fucking love that. This is also a great one for quickies, I get the sensations that I love and he cannot last…this is like his sexual kryptonite.

3. Spooning

Spooning is an intimate, side-by-side position in which both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction. The partner behind can enter the partner in front from behind, depending on anatomy and preference. It’s a wonderful option for slower, more relaxed sex. The close contact makes cuddling, kissing along the neck, and gentle touching easy. It can also be more comfortable than positions requiring a lot of weight-bearing or flexibility.

Because the partners are lying close together, however, direct clitoral stimulation may take a little extra coordination. A compact vibrator can help make that easier. It’s also a great one for morning sex. If you don’t want to rush to brush teeth, then run back to bed, this one makes kissing on the mouth nearly impossible but still keeps the intimacy high.

Why it’s on our list: It combines physical closeness with a relaxed position that doesn’t require a lot of effort.

Our personal experience: This is a once-a-weekend position in our bedroom. Some mornings I’ll back into him, feel his hardness, and it’s on. I’m also beginning to like when he puts his hands around my neck, gently. One of the strongest orgasms I’ve had recently was spooning while he was holding me close. I nudged his hands up higher from my chest until they were loosely around my throat…I’m still figuring that out, but I came like CRAAZY!

4. Missionary

Missionary might be one of the most familiar sex positions, but familiar doesn’t mean boring.

One partner lies on their back while the other positions themselves above them for face-to-face penetration. The position allows for eye contact, kissing, and close physical contact, making it an excellent choice for couples who enjoy feeling connected during sex. Small adjustments can change the experience considerably. Changing the angle of the hips, placing a pillow beneath the receiving partner’s pelvis, or experimenting with a different rhythm can help couples discover what feels best.

Depending on anatomy and positioning, missionary can also make manual clitoral stimulation easier.

Why it’s on our list: It’s a classic that offers intimacy, flexibility, and plenty of opportunities to explore what works.

Our personal experience: This was the first position we ever had sex in, as it is for many couples. It’s not usually how I finish, but it’s a lovely way to kick things off.

5. Standing Missionary

Standing missionary takes the face-to-face approach and changes things up slightly. One partner lies on their back while the other is standing, thrusting into the other. This position can be exciting because it changes the usual setting and adds a different physical dynamic. It works best when both partners can comfortably reach each other and maintain a stable position.

Height differences can make it tricky, so a small adjustment in stance or the use of a sturdy, appropriate support may help. Comfort and balance should always come before trying to recreate something you’ve seen in a movie.

For couples who want direct clitoral stimulation, a small wearable vibrator can be a useful addition, provided it fits comfortably and doesn’t interfere with movement.

Why it’s on our list: It brings variety to the bedroom and offers an alternative to the usual lying-down positions.

Our personal experience: This is one of his current favorites, as it offers him a view that turns him on so much. Yes, he loves to see my tits bounce and yes he loves to see my ass as he fucks me in doggy…but he’s explained to me that the sight of his cock thrusting in and out of my pussy is on another level. He loves seeing my wetness, his cock glistening, and when he pulls out, the cream pie finish.

6. Standing Doggy Style

This variation of standing sex has one partner positioned in front, leaning forward against a sturdy surface if needed, while the other partner stands behind them. The position offers a different angle from standing missionary and can be adjusted to suit each couple’s height, comfort, and preferred depth. A bed or other stable surface may provide useful support, but avoid furniture that could slide or tip.

As with other rear-entry positions, direct clitoral stimulation isn’t always straightforward. A compact vibrator may help, although the best option depends on how comfortably both partners can reach and hold it.

Why it’s on our list: It’s a standing variation that adds a different angle and sensation to the mix. This is perfect for sex in the shower.

Our personal experience: When I see him looking at me in the shower and I can tell he’s in need of some attention, this is the best way to get him off quickly. I love shower sex, and this is a great option, no matter what the size of the shower. It’s also great for when I want him to cum on my tits or face. I can lean against the tub or the wall, let him fuck me, and then when he’s about to cum he’ll let me know, I can turn and kneel and feel his orgasm hit me. That’s one of the sensations I never thought I’d crave, but here we are…

7. Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse cowgirl is similar to cowgirl, except the partner on top faces away from the partner lying down. The person on top can control the pace and movement while experimenting with different angles. Some couples enjoy the visual aspect, while others appreciate how changing the orientation alters the sensations.

As with regular cowgirl, communication is important. Unusual angles can place strain on the receiving partner’s joints, so it’s worth moving carefully and avoiding sudden movements or excessive force. It can also, from time to time, hit your body in ways you weren’t expecting and cause spotting. Take this one slowly, if it feels good, keep going. If it isn’t working for you, stop and get to something that does.

Clitoral stimulation may be possible with a hand or a suitable small vibrator, depending on the position and how the partners are arranged.

Why it’s on our list: It’s a familiar position with a different perspective and plenty of room for experimentation.

Our personal experience: This is a position that I had to get used to. The first time out he entered me at such an angle that I began to bleed lightly. After some time though, we gave it another go, and took it much slower than before. It gives him a VERY intimate look at my pussy and ass, swallowing his cock as I go up and down. It’s a slow move for us, and I love listening to him as he tries to not lose his shit at what he’s watching.

8. 69

The name says it all: 69 is a position in which partners give each other oral sex simultaneously. They can lie side by side, with one partner positioned above the other, or experiment with other comfortable arrangements.

For couples who enjoy oral sex, it can be an exciting way to give and receive pleasure at the same time. However, simultaneous stimulation isn’t everyone’s preference. Some people find it difficult to concentrate on their own pleasure while focusing on their partner. This isn’t every time for me, but from time to time I treat 69 as a great warm up for me.

There’s no rule saying you have to do everything simultaneously. Taking turns or adjusting the position can make the experience more enjoyable. I find this to be difficult, as his cock in my face is hard to hold back from. It can be done though, and when its right…this is one of my faves.

Why it’s on our list: It’s a different kind of shared experience that puts mutual pleasure front and center.

Our personal experience: As I mentioned, taking turns makes 69 more doable, but it’s a struggle for me not to lick or kiss or do ANYTHING with my mouth to his cock. Especially when he’s as hard as this position gets him. The last time we tried this, he was devouring my pussy and laughing, and when I questioned what was so funny he quipped, “You can’t keep your mouth off it, can you? You’re such a brat.” Not liking that, I arched my back up a little higher, out of his tongue’s reach and began taking his cock deep in my mouth.

9. Lotus

Lotus is an intimate, seated position in which one partner sits with their legs crossed or comfortably folded while the other partner sits facing them, wrapping their legs around the seated partner as comfortable. The position brings the partners close together, making eye contact, kissing, and embracing easy. Rather than focusing on speed or vigorous movement, couples can concentrate on rhythm, connection, and enjoying the moment.

A bed, firm cushion, or other comfortable surface can help make the position more accessible. There’s no need to force a particular leg arrangement if it causes discomfort. Talk, talk, talk y’all!!

Why it’s on our list: It’s a slower, more intimate position that encourages closeness and physical connection.

Our personal experience: This is one of those positions that, with time, has become harder for me to hop into, but it’s one that has started to make me squirt. There’s something incredibly hot about kissing him so deeply while grinding on him.

10. Face Sitting

Face sitting involves one partner positioning themselves over the other’s face for oral stimulation. The receiving partner may lie on their back, sit comfortably, or use pillows to find a suitable angle. Communication is particularly important here. Both partners should be able to communicate clearly, and the receiving partner must be able to breathe comfortably throughout. Agreeing on signals beforehand can be helpful, especially if speaking becomes difficult.

Comfort, consent, and the ability to adjust or stop immediately matter more than maintaining any particular position.

Why it’s on our list: For couples who enjoy oral stimulation, it offers a direct and intimate way to focus on one partner’s pleasure.

Our personal experience: His desire to eat me out is off the charts, so there are a number of positions we’ll do this in and sitting on or hovering just above his mouth is so much fun. It’s a tease for him and an incredibly hot way for me to get off.

The Best Sex Toys for Adding Clitoral Stimulation

Let’s talk about something that can make a big difference: clitoral stimulation. While penetration can feel fantastic, it doesn’t always provide the direct stimulation needed for orgasm. Fortunately, you don’t have to abandon your favorite positions to get the best of both worlds.

The right sex toy can make incorporating clitoral stimulation easier, whether you’re enjoying a familiar favorite or experimenting with something new. Here are our recommendations for the positions where a little extra help can go a long way.

Best Toy for Doggy Style

Doggy style can be fantastic, but reaching the clitoris comfortably isn’t always easy when both partners are focused on the position. I don’t want something bulky that I have to hold in place while I’m getting jostled around by him. I want small, lightweight, and something with a small footprint that won’t get in the way of what his cock is up to.

Our personal pick: The We-Vibe Tango X is an amazing choice due to it’s grippy handle made from body-safe silicone. When you’re in this position you want lightweight, easy to hold toys and this is one of my faves!

Best Toy for Spooning

Spooning is all about closeness, but having two bodies pressed together can leave limited room for a larger toy. A slim, flexible vibrator or a compact wearable design can make it easier to find a comfortable angle while maintaining that close physical contact.

Our personal pick: A toy with a longer reach is great for this one, but its important to stay out of the way of what he’s doing. I love the Blush Oh My Gem Enrapture for this. The soft, spoon-like head can be turned in a number of positions that make me happy but also are gentle enough that if it slips and dings his cock, it doesn’t hurt him.

Best Toy for Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse cowgirl offers a different angle and plenty of control for the partner on top, but direct clitoral stimulation may require some extra coordination. A compact external vibrator or a suitable wearable vibrator can help provide that additional stimulation without taking away from the experience.

Our personal pick: I LOVE PINPOINTS FOR ALL OF THESE POSITIONS, but reverse cowgirl is a position that requires one hand to brace myself and the other to pleasure my clit. Pinpoints are lightweight, they have a longer reach, and the pleasure these provide me is unmatched. It’s also going to have a smaller-than-most footprint that will certainly stay out of the way of what he’s doing. Funzze makes a great one, but honestly any pinpoint will do!

Best Toy for Standing Missionary

Standing missionary is one of those positions that leaves me open, more than others on this list. That means when I’m on my back and my legs are spread wide for him to fuck me, I can put a number of toys on my clit without much worry.

Our personal pick: This is one of those times where one of my wands, these days its been my LeWand Petite, rests on my clit while I watch him take in the scenery. This wand has a lighter than normal feel, hits all the right spots, and makes me a very happy MILF.

A Quick Tip for Choosing the Right Toy

You don’t necessarily need a different vibrator for every position. A compact, body-safe external vibrator may work well across several of these positions, depending on its shape and how comfortably you can use it.

Look for something that’s easy to handle, comfortable against the body, and suitable for partnered play. If you’re considering a wearable design, make sure it stays securely in place during movement.

The best choice isn’t necessarily the most expensive or powerful toy. It’s the one that fits your preferences and makes an already enjoyable experience even better.

Final Thoughts: The Best Sex Position Is the One You Both Enjoy

There’s no universal winner when it comes to sex positions. What works brilliantly for one couple might be uncomfortable, awkward, or simply uninteresting for another. The fun is in finding what works for you, communicating about what feels good, and being willing to experiment without turning sex into a performance.

And if a favorite position becomes even better with a little help from a sex toy? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

These are our ten favorites, but we’re always interested in hearing what other couples enjoy. After all, there are plenty of ways to have great sex, and discovering them together is half the fun. Do us a favor and let us know what you like, what’s been something that’s surprised you, and what toys you like to use when you’re on the receiving end of a very enthusiastic partner!